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Platonic kissing on the lips:

i kiss my grandmother with these lips! ... on her lips.

Tell me the first song lyric that pops into your head:



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Apr. 3rd, 2005 03:01 am (UTC)
Should the song lyric be one that pops into my head related to the kissing question? Or can it be the one that has been running through my head all evening?
Apr. 3rd, 2005 03:03 am (UTC)
Whichever one you feel more compelled to use, I suppose. It wasn't supposed to be related. :) So let's hear what's been running through your head!
Apr. 3rd, 2005 04:10 am (UTC)
I confess, that wasn't the first song lyric that came into my head, but your music is playing, and I had it pre-prepared elsewhere and I've been wanting to see it next to my bizarrojack name for a whie.

Also, Platonic kissing on the mouth is possible, just not for me; not because it would mean something, just because I don't do it now, and whoever is first to get a platonic kiss would probably be weirded out by it. Especially if it was a man. If platonic kisses were limited to the opposite sex, I think that would make it marginally different than purely platonic. Still not "romantic" but the inherent sexism kind of implies an ambient level of sexualness.
Ok maybe the answer is just "no." As of now, Platonic kisses cost a dollar.
Apr. 3rd, 2005 04:20 am (UTC)
I see now my question is flawed. I should have said "for the poll answerer", I thought it was implied, but I see now that it is not.

I was just thinking about this in the shower, how some people kiss their family on the mouth and I don't think I have since I was maybe 3 or something. Plus I'm bi so obviously there is an ambient sexuality about everything I do. When I do my laundry I don't even care if the buttons are on the left or the right. It's still ambiently sexual.
Apr. 3rd, 2005 04:52 am (UTC)
OK , see I can't kiss my folks on the lips platonically, but I can kiss my best friend on thelips platonically. And of course my kids, and a few other people here and there, I think it's specific person to person for me. Is that wierd?
Apr. 4th, 2005 11:15 am (UTC)
Well, I suppose I should have read this before answering the poll. :) Strangely, I don't care which side the buttons are on either, but they when they come out they all seem to be on the same side anyway.
Apr. 4th, 2005 02:31 pm (UTC)
Hmm, I'm bi and I don't feel that there is an ambient sexuality about everything I do. Definitely not about doing the laundry.

My dad and my grandma do the peck-on-the-lips thing so I'm used to it, but I am still awkward even about cheek-kissing with friends, partly just b/c I'm clumsy and left-handed, so I'm always angling in the wrong direction...
Apr. 4th, 2005 03:06 pm (UTC)
I was kind of making a joke about the perception of bisexuality = nymphomania or something. ;)
Apr. 4th, 2005 03:07 pm (UTC)
I am so dense! :-D
Apr. 3rd, 2005 04:51 am (UTC)
My song lyrics seem to be quite appropriate, but it was avctually just the last song I was listening to in the car...funny.

Apr. 3rd, 2005 06:21 am (UTC)
Are you saying you've never kissed anyone on the lips platonically?
Apr. 3rd, 2005 01:54 pm (UTC)
I think I have, I just think I couldn't get in that mindset nowadays.
Apr. 3rd, 2005 11:21 pm (UTC)
yeah, no matter how you feel about it, it's difficult to initiate if no precedent has already been set among your family or friends. i'm totally down with a friendly peck on the lips, if the person and the context conspire to make the moment feel oh-so-right... but sadly, the further out of college i get, the less likely it seems that such a situation will present itself. :P

as in jack's comment above, i too have to cop to a little inherent sexism in my policy.... though probably not for the same reasons. when i think of my male and female friends, i'm pretty sure any of the females could lipkiss me without necessarily coming across as sexual and/or creepy about it, even the ones to whom i am sexually attracted, and the ones who are gay or bi themselves, and thus have the potential to be attracted to me. but i don't know if i could kiss many of my straight male friends, even on the cheek, without generating weirdness... which is really unfair, and in fact i'm kinda disturbed i feel that way. is it that i regard the motives of hetero males as inherently suspect? or that more of my male friends happen to be single at the moment, adding a new level of potential confusion? or that i'm more okay with sexually ambiguous affection between me and a female friend, because in my albeit limited experience it's more likely to *stay* ambiguous when i'm kissing a girl versus kissing a boy?

also, it's entirely probable that i am rambling senselessly due to profound disorientation. which is bound to happen when you wake from a nap at 7pm. :/

at any rate, you've raised a very interesting question... one i apparently feel a need to straighten out in my own mind, and i thank you for it! *bows*
Apr. 3rd, 2005 01:41 pm (UTC)
My family is all about the platonic lip kissing. Seriously, my dad and his brothers kiss everyone that way.
Apr. 3rd, 2005 01:55 pm (UTC)
I think that's cool! I wish I were not so uptight in that regard.
Apr. 3rd, 2005 02:02 pm (UTC)
Almost 29 years into it, I'm still not so comfortable with it that I will initiate the platonic mouth kisses. My dad and uncles all kiss each other on the lips, but my brothers and I do not kiss each other at all. In fact, deaths, breakups, and weddings are about the only times we even hug. :P
Apr. 3rd, 2005 02:38 pm (UTC)
I shall never know, if I had siblings, how much I would touch them! I think cheek kissing is about as far as it could possibly go without my feeling awkward.
Apr. 3rd, 2005 06:40 pm (UTC)
I have a theory but I'm not sure how accurate it is. I think the length of the kiss and softness of the lips have a significant effect on whether a kiss can be platonic. If your lips are soft and supple, rather than tense and hard, I think it's almost impossible for a kiss to be platonic. But a quick peck with pursed stiff lips - seems like that has a much greater chance of being platonic if that is desired.

While my family has been known to kiss on the lips, I think I do that alot less now, though I hug people alot less than I used to also.
Apr. 3rd, 2005 10:11 pm (UTC)
Would you be cool with a girl platonically kissing Jack on the lips?
Apr. 3rd, 2005 11:24 pm (UTC)
no such thing. :)
Apr. 4th, 2005 03:19 am (UTC)
No such thing as a girl who would platonically kiss Jack on the lips, or no such thing as a platonic kiss on the lips involving Jack, or no such thing as a platonic kiss on the lips? ;)
Apr. 4th, 2005 04:00 am (UTC)
If a girl were kissing Jack on the lips, and she was not related to him, I would not consider it platonic unless some significant amount of discussion had occurred beforehand and I was satisfied with the platonicness. Which, I gotta tell ya, seems unlikely. :)
Apr. 3rd, 2005 11:04 pm (UTC)
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