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OH GAWD CHAOS!!##^%#&$#

i have no idea how people whose significant others' move in and actually have alot of actual stuff do it.


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Mar. 15th, 2004 01:16 pm (UTC)
not that i've ever experienced this.... but i always figured it'd be easier to get a new place together. that way you can go through your stuff at the same time - instead of trying to make room for someone's crap.

but like i said.... no actual experience here. just me and my cats - i'm well on my way to becoming a crazy cat lady.
Mar. 15th, 2004 01:23 pm (UTC)
this is my first time, so i don't really have any experience either. :) poor jack - he's really moving in with two crazy cat ladies.
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Mar. 15th, 2004 01:18 pm (UTC)
when i do this, my stuff wins and that's final. this is because i am an evil control freak.

er, sorry to have been of such little help.
Mar. 15th, 2004 01:23 pm (UTC)
in the stuff war, mine wins because it outnumbers jack's 2874562487 to one. thus i feel obligated to make room for that little bit of stuff that is his.

the good news for him is, this is only winning me over to the side of "possessions are a burden"...

p.s. i love your container icon.
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Mar. 15th, 2004 01:25 pm (UTC)
Storage Storage Storage....

Ya I just moved from a full two bedroom apt of my own down to a small single room with two roommates, I actually don't have any thing in the kitchen except for a couple of mountain dews in the fridge.
Mar. 15th, 2004 01:27 pm (UTC)
You know, when C and I first moved in together (geez, like what, nine years ago now!), we were both young enough that neither of us had a lot of stuff. And luckily we have similar taste so the few things that needed to be merged went pretty nicely together. I cannot even begin to imagine what it's like to have to combine two adult households...yikes! You have my sympathies!
Mar. 16th, 2004 06:56 am (UTC)
Fortunately, Jack is a total minimalist. :) I had it almost all put away by the end of the day yesterday.
Mar. 15th, 2004 01:37 pm (UTC)
Get a place twice as big. Hell, I went from 725 sq.ft. to 3300 - I recommend it heartily.
Mar. 15th, 2004 01:56 pm (UTC)
yes, that would be perfect. i will just wave my magic fairy wand and make it so.
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Mar. 15th, 2004 01:39 pm (UTC)
The only reason it worked when A. moved in was that I didn't own any 'useful' furniture. My basement is now literally just full of all my crap, and there still isn't enough room. I *need* a library so bad I might start digging one soon.
Mar. 16th, 2004 06:58 am (UTC)
We all know the library is just a cover story for your zombie lab.
Mar. 15th, 2004 01:46 pm (UTC)
Assuming that "buy a bigger place" is not yet an option, my approach to the subject is to go through the house first, cleaning and organizing things as thoroughly as possible with the full intent of creating more (and theoretically, 'enough') room for stuff. We did this at Scott's when I moved back to Baltimore and it worked nicely.

A secondary but also useful suggestion: storage, storage, storage. It's really not as much per month as you might think, and it saves a LOT of headache.
Mar. 15th, 2004 01:56 pm (UTC)
oh! i have a storage unit. and oh, will we be making use of it. :D jack's bed and tv are already in there...
Mar. 15th, 2004 02:04 pm (UTC)
The great purge!
When Falkonne moved into my townhouse, there was the great merge. When we moved into our own house, there was the great purge. (not great enough, however). It is insane. Completely nuts. I completely sympathize.

We /still/ have boxes to unpack. I have put this off until there is a steady stream of good weather so I can go completely crazy.

Let me tell you what it is then like to add a kido who is spoiled rotten to the stuff mix! She has more toys and clothing. Oh the joys of having a girly girl;)

I have some containers at this point keeping me mildly sane, but at all of the edges of the semi-neat lurk one giant mess that is trying to get out of its boxes, and out from behind doors.
Mar. 16th, 2004 06:59 am (UTC)
Re: The great purge!
at all of the edges of the semi-neat lurk one giant mess that is trying to get out of its boxes, and out from behind doors.

It's funny, I know what you mean but it also works both ways... because inside all the boxes is also a life I'm not leading! Crafts, music... it's all so hard to get to in the back of closets and under beds that I just don't.
Mar. 15th, 2004 02:22 pm (UTC)
When Julie moved in, there were so many trips to Ikea and the Container Store that the employees started to give us the "you're a regular" treatment, especially at the latter of the two.
Mar. 15th, 2004 02:57 pm (UTC)
Me either. In both cases where I've been in a live-in relationship, my paramour arrived from another country with essentially a duffel bag full of stuff and that was it. I tend towards minimalism myself, so it's all good. The bigger problem by far has been housemates that move out and leave you with fifteen tons of their crap that they don't want. Had three of those in quick succession... I still have a few remnants of my ex's kicking around that I just haven't gotten around to getting rid of yet (it involves making a weekend trip to the dump/recycling center).
Mar. 16th, 2004 07:01 am (UTC)
The bigger problem by far has been housemates that move out and leave you with fifteen tons of their crap that they don't want.

oooh that would make me so mad!
Mar. 15th, 2004 03:11 pm (UTC)
At least you only have to deal with cramped quarters for a little while. Come fall you should be somewhere much larger!
Mar. 15th, 2004 04:47 pm (UTC)
gosh I hope so!
Mar. 15th, 2004 06:01 pm (UTC)
Mostly it takes a bit of planning ahead. Your first line suggests it may be too late for that. When L moved into M's house (couple friends in NC), M had been living there for many many years. He tried as much as humanly possible to clear out one of the two smaller bedrooms for L and half the master closet. No small task, I can assure you. Even so, there were little things that kept popping up and causing some friction.

Which leads to the second bit: patience. They both did what they could to compress down or cast off things, squeezed and squiggled stuff in sideways, and are now happily co-entrenched.
Mar. 16th, 2004 07:02 am (UTC)
I think I was whining a bit too much there; really it isn't that bad and I got the bulk of it sorted away by the end of the day. :)
Mar. 16th, 2004 04:36 am (UTC)
Heh, that was fun for tirani and I.
But you remember, you were still there.
2/3 of my stuff shoved into storage.
Still, it'll all be worth it in the long run, trust me.
The bigger place will come in time.
Mar. 17th, 2004 09:00 am (UTC)
not that it matters but here's my two cents (can i have four cents change for that?)
I tend to lean somewhere towards the minimalist approach in regards to about 80% of what one would consider SMP's (Standard Material Possesions). This includes clothes, dishes, books, movies, computers, etc. As for my girlfriend, well you know what they say about opposites....?
That being said, my other half and i made an agreement- I get half of the bottom floor for all my worldly possessions and she would retain half of the top floor for hers. I affectionately call this area "the abyss" (because she can never find anything when she is looking for it) and mine the "man-cave" (toys and workout equipment- of course *smile*). The rest of the house is a "common-area" where all of the co-mingled belongings reside. It seems to work (for now) but i think my other half is starting to realize it's time for that once-every-twenty-years-or-so cleansing that she sees me do a few times per year.

I think she will look to the gods of cleaning for guidance.... LOL!
Mar. 19th, 2004 09:06 am (UTC)
Re: not that it matters but here's my two cents (can i have four cents change for that?)
Thanks for the comment... unfortunately we do not have an upstairs and a downstairs... yet! If we used that strategy the downstairs would have a computer and some socks in it, and the upstairs would be crammed so tight with stuffed animals, books, cds, more books, craft stuff, musical instruments, and everything else that the hose would come crashing down under its own weight... hrm maybe I should take the basement :)

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