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hey guys, if you think marriage is a prison, and that it means the rest of your life will be lived in quiet desperation, don't get married. don't go blaming that on women "tricking" you into getting married or "forcing" you to settle down. you are capable of adult decision making, unless you really want to play into that caveman role.

everything else in the routine was pretty funny, but that just had me rolling my eyes. backlash anyone?

my saturday has been entirely reading, eating and a little sleeping. this is a good thing. well except that i wish there had been more sleeping.

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evilhat
Jul. 20th, 2003 01:05 pm (UTC)
He's not necessarily referring to a *bad* shock -- just something that is Different and Startling.

Some people go through more or less transformation in their lives when they get married. I think you've been lucky in marrying someone with whom you have a tremendous degree of natural compatibility. This is definitely not true of every couple. I can think of examples of male friends that I have, especially from college, for whom I could readily -- and have -- described their spouses as the ball-and-chains.
snidegrrl
Jul. 20th, 2003 10:50 pm (UTC)
it was funny, maher was bitching about women buying into the diamond trade, and how it has so bloody and horrible, and i have no idea how he did this but he segued into women coercing men to buy them the evil diamond. well, i feel the same way about diamonds, even though i was the proud owner (borrower???) of one for about a year, but when he jumped into this macho postulation about how he was the luckiest of all his friends, because they were all married, he totally lost me.

and this from the potentially anti-marriage feminist!!! (i'm not anti-monogamy or against people being partners and making vows, i just like to remind people of the het-privilege issues and the traditionally partirirachal construct that it is.) (and by saying shit like that, maher is just reinforcing the BAD stereotypes about marriage!!)
zenthia
Jul. 20th, 2003 05:30 pm (UTC)
It must be awful to feel like it's a bad thing to even express your affection about your wife - too feel like you have to cover it up with macho posturing.

Some girls like the big beefy guys... I like the smart, self-aware guys. There's nothing more sexy than a mind.....
snidegrrl
Jul. 20th, 2003 11:06 pm (UTC)
that was what really shocked me about it... bill maher is clearly a really smart, self-aware guy. and obviously, he doesn't wanna be married, so he's not. but he was basically laughing at all the married friends he had for being whipped. it was lame.
rob_donoghue
Jul. 21st, 2003 08:08 am (UTC)
I'll buy smart.

But I know single guy bitterness when I hear it.
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