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quick survey, people

Is it worse to get irrationally mad about things, or irrationally sad about things?

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rob_donoghue
Jan. 16th, 2002 10:53 am (UTC)
Mad. You're more likely to hurt someone else.
snidegrrl
Jan. 17th, 2002 07:22 am (UTC)
i like this simple explanation... i guess in both cases, the people who care about you have to deal with it either way, simply that they are more likely to take some collateral damage with anger than with sadness.
rob_donoghue
Jan. 17th, 2002 12:25 pm (UTC)
I seem to be growing more terse in my old age.
snidegrrl
Jan. 18th, 2002 07:20 am (UTC)
yup

:) hee
mistervimes
Jan. 16th, 2002 11:03 am (UTC)
Hard to say. Anger is externally destructive (hurting others); Sadness is internally destructive (hurting self)...

The irrationality is the tie breaker... Irrational anger burns out faster... Irrational sadness consumes and smolders...

So Sadness is worse (barely)
snidegrrl
Jan. 17th, 2002 07:23 am (UTC)
i also agree with this... i tend to be irrationally sad, and it really does stay with you. although i have known some people who hold onto their irrationally angry grudges for a long, long time. :)
mistervimes
Jan. 17th, 2002 01:26 pm (UTC)
Re:
People are people... We all have our self-destruct buttons... Self loathing is merely and introvert's homocide.
snidegrrl
Jan. 18th, 2002 07:18 am (UTC)
so... hrm... what i do s try to kill myself as slowly and painfully as possible! sweet!
mistervimes
Jan. 18th, 2002 12:14 pm (UTC)
Re:
'Fraid so... but... society is to blame... *grin*
snidegrrl
Nov. 4th, 2008 10:18 pm (UTC)
I just wanted to point out how long we have been internet friends! I was reading old posts and found this. 2002 baby!
mistervimes
Nov. 4th, 2008 10:26 pm (UTC)
6 Years, we're practically family
examorata
Jan. 16th, 2002 11:14 am (UTC)
it depends
No, really, that's the answer. It depends. Anger can be a force for change, that can be good or bad. Sadness can lead to introspection, which is usually good.

I think the key word here is 'irrationally.' Take that out of either, and they're both more valid.

Believe me, I know what it's like to have irrational emotional reactions. Sometimes you just have to ride it out until making that decision about what to do is a little less cluttered by the raging tide of emotion.
snidegrrl
Jan. 17th, 2002 07:30 am (UTC)
Re: it depends
Basically, what prompted this post is that I have been thinking about my reactions to things, which is more often than not lately to cry alot, and then I noticed someone else's reactions to things, which was to get very, very angry and swear and what-not. And I was thinking about how I react to someone who's crying, versus someone who's barking and about to punch someone. I hate that when little things go wrong and I almost burst into tears, or become closed and silent and unable to communicate. I felt, at the time, that I would much rather be pushing myself outward than cowering inwards.
malkin
Jan. 16th, 2002 11:32 am (UTC)
Coping.
It depends on one's coping mechanisms.

Some people deal with anger by internalizing it and letting it burn them up from the inside. Some people deal with anger by looking for someone to bludgeon to a bloody pulp. Some people deal with anger by bending is energy towards exercise, work, or improving themselves.

Some people deal with sadness by killing themselves. Some people deal with sadness by trying to make everyone else feel their sadness. Artistically, some people create lots of lugubrious crap when they're sad, but others use it as inspiration for creating wonderful works of powerful longing and loss.

So, the question, as far as I'm concerned, is how does the irrational sadness or irrational anger affect the person feeling them? If either one can be channeled constructively, then it is the clear winner.
snidegrrl
Jan. 17th, 2002 07:31 am (UTC)
Re: Coping.
Hear hear. I think, in regards to watching myself and the people around me that prompted this post, none of it is really constructive. I think I was envious of other people's anger, however, because it felt like that was easier to turn to something constructive than my own wet-blankety sadness.
professorbooty
Jan. 16th, 2002 01:01 pm (UTC)
Irritating yet only partially sarcastic answer:
No.
snidegrrl
Jan. 17th, 2002 07:34 am (UTC)
Re: Irritating yet only partially sarcastic answer:
I'm irrationally mad that you only answered with one word! RAR!!

Just kidding. I think I understand what you meant.
cheetahmaster
Jan. 16th, 2002 07:49 pm (UTC)
well
Time for me to get all hippie again. It's getting to be a habit in my old age.

Since you know it is irrational, that is the first step towards resolving it within yourself.
Now, which do you recognize first with yourself, anger or sadness? For me, it's anger. Ergo, I think sadness is worse.

The good news is, you already recognize it. Doesn't make it feel any better, but it gives you power over it. That's the first step.
snidegrrl
Jan. 17th, 2002 07:49 am (UTC)
Re: well
Oho. As I explained in another answer above, for me, it's the irrationally sad reactions. I don't know how to change it though. I had begun to accept that it is just the way I am. I still toy with the idea that it is clinical depression, but I have shelved that idea for the time being.
debela
Jan. 17th, 2002 04:39 pm (UTC)
Key word: irrational.

Other key word, not used: emotional. Emotional happens. It's what you do with it or that it does (or isn't allowed to do) with you that counts. If emotion irrationally informs your decisions without any brakes on it, neither option's a better or worse one. They both just end up doing damage to you or someone else when allowed free reign.
snidegrrl
Jan. 18th, 2002 07:13 am (UTC)
i suppose it's true that there both bad, and could by chance be constructive if handled correctly. but the fact is, i'd like to be able to eliminate my wild bouts of sad reactions completely, not replace them with anger, which at the time i asked that seemed desirable.
snidegrrl
Jan. 18th, 2002 07:13 am (UTC)
oh. my. god. i am not that much of an idiot.
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bronzemountain
Jun. 17th, 2002 02:53 pm (UTC)
If a reaction is truely irrational - that is, you find it hitting you from nowhere and overwhelming you for no discernible reason - then it is, more or less by definition, not constructive. To refute my own musings, by the way, I think this sort of forum generates the least helpful sort of response. Well, except rob_donoghue, with whom I agree. But, you know, lacking in context and actual depth of understanding, only the shallowest responses are possible and those are, at best, momentarily gratifying. I don't mean to say you shouldn't pose this sort of question or whatnot. I'm just saying these sorts of questions generally result in a very poor signal to noise ratio.
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